Be Who You Want To Be

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Becoming the person you want to be

What does it mean to be who you want to be? Being who you want to be means going out and doing things for you. There is no one in this world that is more important in your life than yourself. Take the time to get to know who you are and who you want to be so you can be happy and live a fulfilled life. Knowing who you are is only half the battle. You have to fully understand yourself to make this concept work. Visualize who you want to be in the future. Now look at where you are now. If you don’t see the same person it’s time to get to work. If you do see the same person that’s awesome and you are probably already living your dream. Now let’s get back to what you need to do to be who you want to be.

There are going to be a few steps to finding yourself and growing into who you want to be. They aren’t hard steps and each one that you follow will get you closer to your dream life. Let’s take a look at what those steps are going to be.

Step 1) Take time to write down what you believe in

This step is about getting all of who you are on paper. You will need to thoroughly look at everything that makes you who you are and explain why you are like that. The smaller you can break things down the easier it will be to fine tune things in the future.

You will need to explain in detail why you believe the things you do and why you don’t believe in the things you don’t. This goes for your moral and ethical beliefs. It is easy to get caught up in the fast paced world but this is a time to sit down and really get to know yourself, think it through.

If you see something missing from your list you’ll need to create a seperate list. This new list is things to improve on. This will be very important in the next step.

Step 2) Look for places on your list that you can improve

This is the step when you start building your character and start becoming who you want to be. What it comes down to is taking your list of missing attributes and finding ways to add them to your life.

The best way to go about this step is to find a mentor that has experience and can teach you from their mistakes. Mentors can be anyone from the people around you to authors of books that you’ve read. Take the advice of others and take advantage of what has come before you.

Step 3) Focus on what you believe is right

You are going to be learning and exploring a ton of information while on the journey of becoming yourself. During this journey you will need to expand upon the things you believe are right in the world.  Adjust your life and surround yourself with like minded people. The more things you do to improve yourself the happier you will be.

An important part of learning is sharing knowledge. During this step you should seek out people that are willing and interested in learning from you. Teach them the ways of “being who you want to be” become the mentor that you sought out during Step 2.

Step 4) Become passionate about the things you enjoy

This is the last major step in being who you want to be. You may have hobbies or interests but this is the time to turn them into a passion. Passions are the easiest things to learn and the easiest things for you to teach. You can become passionate about improving skills that you previously lacked. This is the time to get involved with whatever you are passionate about. Volunteer time, teach others or spend more time on your hobby. Eventually your passion will be part of your life and people will know you for it. This circles around to being who you want to be because you are truly the person doing the things you enjoy and are passionate about.

Learning is the key to living your dream

The most important thing to take away from “being who you want to be” is to keep learning. The only way to ever progress in life is to continue your education. It doesn’t matter if it is school, reading books or getting a mentor that helps you learn new things. as long as you are improving your life you will be able to live your dream. Use the idea of “being who you want to be” as a stepping on your Pursuit of Excellence. 

Why You Need An Accountability Partner

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Accountability Partners as a Strategic Success Tool

Have you ever started something but didn’t finish? Or worse yet you said you were going to do something but never even got started? Don’t worry you’re not alone. When it comes to getting stuff done getting started is the hardest part and keeping it going is a close second. That’s where accountability partners and groups come in to help you succeed.

Accountability partners and groups are people that get together that have a similar common goal. One example would be a book club. They have a common goal of finishing and discussing a book (or maybe a few). These partners and groups are important to success because they keep you accountable for the things you say and do. Think about this, how hard is it going to be to tell you group of friends you didn’t’ do something? Pretty hard, especially if you know they stayed accountable for the same task. It’s kind of like peer pressure except your peers are convincing you to improve your life!

Now you may be thinking this concept sounds pretty cool but you have one big question, “How do I even find an accountability partner or group?”  The answer is there are a few different ways to get involved.

3 Ways to Find Accountability Partners or Groups 

Local Groups

Local GroupsNetworking is going to be a big part of meeting people and being part of an accountability group. You can find local groups through your hobbies or other interests. If you want to be part of Toastmasters find a local group and join. If you want to be around more people that like RC cars or planes go to a local hobby shop and ask around. There are thousands of people meeting everyday you just need to get out and find them. If you are having trouble with finding groups the next two ways of getting into a group are for you!

Create Your Own 

Creating your own group may not be the easiest way to go about this but it’s definitely the most rewarding. There are a few things that need to be done to create your own group. One is finding a place to meet. A simple solution is finding a park, a Starbucks, or someone’s house that is easily accessible.

Next you want to find a few like minded people to come together and create a group. Ideally you can find these people through your network. If you don’t have a network yet starting with an online group or a local meetup may be easier. Depending on your goals you can decide the main focus of the group (a book club reads books).

Next pick a time and date and be consistent. The third Monday or second Thursday of a month are great examples. This is something you want the entire group to agree on. At a later date you can work as a group to change the date but to start pick something that is easy to remember.

Online

OnlineThere are an abundance for online groups that can be joined. Some of these groups only meet online while others just use the internet as a way to market themselves. Depending on your personality either option will work. You can find these groups through social media like Facebook or apps like MeetUp. Check into if the groups are only online or if they meet in person before you join, it wouldn’t be fun to join a group just to find out that you don’t even live where they meet.

Now What Do We Do?

One you have a group you’re going to want something to do. There are a few options out there. You’ll notice that most groups have a structure that is consistent with each meeting. You don’t to show up to a book club and spend the entire time talking about something unrelated like sports or video games. That’s why it is important for an accountability group or partnership to have a structure.

Regular Meetings

The idea of regular meetings is going to be the easiest option for everyone involved. The group can pick a time and location for the meeting. Once this is set it should not be changed unless the group is better off changing time and locations at a future date.

The next thing the group will want to figure out is a schedule for the meeting. A good way to do that is to have a short period of time at the beginning for catching up as everyone rolls in. After everyone has arrived it’s time to get serious. Depending on your group you may want to do 10 to 20 minute time slots for everyone to talk about what they did do, didn’t do, and what they want to improve on. If your group has presentations this would be the time to do that. If these two ideas don’t sound right for your group then it’s time to discuss with them what will work best.

At the end of these meetings everyone should have had a chance to talk and make goals for the future. These goals can be as individuals or as a group. It’s up to you to decide what will work best for you.

Group Events

Group EventsGroup events are as formal or informal as you want them to be. These kind of events can be anything from team building to a guys or girls night out. This is the time when your group is creating a bond that will make you feel the need to stay accountable.

One of favorites group events for the groups I’ve been involved with were local sports games. It works out well because they are relatively cheap compared to professional games and almost everyone can have fun. If your group isn’t into sports it may be possible to find trade shows or conventions that interest the team. Remember this is about bonding with the group so find something that the group can enjoy.

Classes

Education is important for becoming successful and part of an accountability group or partner is helping everyone achieve more. One of the best ways to improve the group is through taking classes. This doesn’t have to be through a college or anything formal. If you or your group members see a seminar or class on a topic related to the group everyone has a chance to learn. Keep on the lookout for local events that are related to what you and your group want to achieve. A local personal finance seminar can push a personal finance accountability group to the next level.

Any time you take a class make sure to take notes and share it with the group. If multiple people in the group want to learn the same thing it can turn into more of a group event and it will make learning more fun. Remember this is about education and helping yourself and the group. Learning is one of the foundations of success so help your group learn!

Accountability On Your Own

Make a PlanThe groups or partners may make accountability easier but you still have to make sure you are accountable to yourself. This means that between meetings it’s important to stay on the right track. It may be hard to stay accountable when you aren’t checking in with your group or partners regularly but here are a few ways to do it.

  1. Use a daily journal to write down your daily, weekly, monthly, and long term goals.
  2. Create a “To do list” of all the most important activities. The more important the task is the higher it is on the list. Don’t skip tasks for something easier.
  3. Look at the end result you want and create a plan from end to beginning. This is your roadmap to success. Make adjustments as needed.
  4. Create a unique habit that helps you achieve your goals and stay accountable to yourself.

Everyone is different so try new things and experiment. If something works out well for you bring it to the group’s attention. It’s never a bad thing to help yourself and the group at the same time. Your group members may even start using your accountability tricks to improve themselves outside of the group.

Achieve More Through Accountability

It may not seem like it at first but accountability is a big part in becoming successful. You never know when something you are working on could change your life. It is important to surround yourself with people that also want you to succeed. Bringing those kinds of people so that everyone has a chance to achieve more. The more accountable you are for your actions the better. If you can bring people together with a common goal it makes it even easier.

Don’t forget that one of the best ways to achieve success is to create a culture of accountability around you. Share your ideas and goals with friends and family. Find new people to spend time with that want to achieve more just like you do. If you think that someone you know would benefit from learning more about accountability share these ideas with them. Help others join our community of people that believe everyone can achieve more!